Wednesday, September 26, 2012 Category : , , , 1


Parents play a very important role in a child’s life. They are the source of wisdom and examples during the formative years of the children. Parents are expected to take good care of their children until they grow old, but sometimes fate intervenes and death occurs in the family. Parent’s death triggers a child to feel being left alone. Thus, they struggle for acceptance and deny the fact that they can no longer be with their parents.

The study aimed to determine and discover the effects of parental death in terms of emotional, physiological, social and physical and how these children cope up with it.

Under the case analysis, quantitative data was gathered through the questionnaire. Another kind of data used in this study is qualitative data which was gathered through the case study, participant observation method and the interview technique. These data gathered led the researcher to make a conclusion regarding the study which will then result to a proposed program as an output of the study.


Based on the data gathered, the researcher has come up with the following:

1. Parental loss:
     (1.1) The first respondent got indirect information because what happen to her father was not revealed to her right then.
     (1.2) The second respondent got informed directly about the death of his mother.

2. Effects of parental loss:
     (2.1) Emotional: The respondents experienced intense grief and sadness, anger, blaming, denial, depression, anxiety, rebellion, and guilt.
     (2.2) Physiological: The respondent had preoccupation of thoughts about the death of the significant people in their life.
     (2.3) Social: One of the subjects has a strange relationship with her mother, she blames her mother. She became less active in school and experienced withdrawal from her peers. She was attention-seeking and her academic performance declined. The second respondent also experienced social withdrawal and that the death of his mother led him to become more mature thus, he can no longer relate to his classmates.
     (2.4) Physical: The respondent’s physical reaction included inability to sleep, loss of appetite, stomach upset, and fatigue.

3. Coping or defense mechanism:
     (3.1) Denial: It was found out that the respondents in this study chose denial as their coping mechanism for the loss of a love one.
     (3.2) Acceptance: The respondents in the study went through a lot of struggles as they experienced the loss but later on accepted the reality that they have to move on and let go of the memories of the deceased person.


A Step of Moving On – The proposed program is composed of three modules namely Let’s Talk Awhile, Role-playing, and Spend Time with Me. The program is designed to meet the needs of the children and for the immediate family to accept reality and be able to move on with their life.


After a thorough investigation and assessment, the researcher concludes the following:

When a child experiences a sudden death of a parent, the child undergoes stages of grief and coping. This includes shock, the stage where children have a hard time dealing with the fact that their parents have died.

Children show signs of physical, emotional, physiological, and social disturbances which include inability to sleep, anxieties, social withdrawal, and preoccupation of thoughts about the death of his or her parents.

The last stage is gradual reawakening where children gradually readjust their lives and learn to live and enjoy most aspects of life without the deceased parent. The respondents in this study have not yet reached this stage.


Based on the findings and conclusions made, the researcher advances the following recommendations:

  1. The researcher highly recommends the implementation of the proposed Recovery Program which could help them cope up with their situations and for them to understand and realize the real essence of life and the great role of death in the life cycle in maintaining the balance of mankind.
  2. That the child should learn how to be open to other family members in order to avoid gap.
  3. A great deal of support must be given to the affected child by his immediate family in order to handle the loss easily.
  4. The guidance counselor should monitor children who are experiencing parental death in order to help them develop a positive view in life in order to move on.
  5. That the public, who also once experienced death of parents, offer their full support and help the immediate family of the child.


Tuesday, September 18, 2012 Category : , , , 0


Many women are inspired to join beauty contests just because of the benefits they may gain. Some benefits would include prizes that the contestant may win. Other contestants feel satisfied because of the exposure they experience during the contest, plus the appreciation and applause they receive from the audience. For those who win, recognition, fame, and confidence will be achieved. But it cannot be denied that some fail, and yet they still continue joining such contests. These things lead women in ascertaining their dreams to become a beauty queen. It could be that women are motivated for their personal interest or it could be due to a social factor such as parents or friends.

This study aimed to know the motivating factors and effects of failure on young women who are fond of joining beauty contests. This study hoped to design a Self-Presentation Program.


Based on the data, the researchers came up with the following:

1. Profile of Miss Spooge women – The age of the respondents ranged from 16-22 years old. Three respondents are still in college, one stopped studying, and the other one is high school. All respondents came from different countries. The age of the respondents when they started joined beauty contests ranged from 15-17 years old. All the respondents lost in the contest 3-5 times and joined beauty contests 5-8 times.

2. Motivational Factors

Personal – Young women were motivated to join beauty contests for they believed that beauty contests can help them claim fame and glory. They also perceived that entering in the world of pageants is a way to improve and gain self-confidence. Personally, they were interested in joining beauty contests because of the benefits they gained like money, fame, exposure, experience, sponsorships, and confidence. As a matter of fact, some of them dreamed to become a beauty queen when they were still children. 

Social – Three of the respondents were influenced by their family and relatives who were fond of watching and joining beauty contests. The three respondents came from a family of beauty titlists. They were influenced by their aunt and gay brother. All respondents have gay friends and peers that were interested and active in joining beauty contest. Their encouragement and support motivated them in joining the said contests again and again.

3. Self-Concept – All respondents had negative self-statements about themselves every time they lost in the beauty contests but still they had self-esteem. As a consequence, their value, self-worth, and respect for themselves were increasing. All respondents had strong interpersonal skills.

4. Coping Mechanism – Most of the respondents used coping mechanisms of social support coping through the help of their families and friends. But at times, when they did not cope with problems adaptively, they used defense mechanisms like identification and rationalization. This also helped them enhance their self-worth and protected them from sense of failure and aided them in softening the blow connected with their disappointments about their defeats in the beauty contests.

5. Effects – Though they had negative self-statements about themselves on their failures in the beauty contests still there are nice effects and these are as follows: they gained more self-confidence, grasped a strong fighting spirit, and achieved more trust in themselves. Their defeat in the beauty contests was like a challenge for them to join again.


Module 1: “Getting to know thy selves”
One way of knowing ourselves better is through self-disclosure. Self-disclosure involves sharing information about the self and participants’ views, feelings and perceptions or intentions. It breaks down facades, allows personal contacts, and enhances self-esteem.

Module 2: “Enhancing Self-Esteem”
This suggests how the participants improve their self-concepts. They will reveal their positive and negative self statements.

Module 3: “Achieving Strong Family Ties”
This activity is intended for dysfunctional families to enrich their relationships with one another to improve strong family ties. Through family open communication, family conflicts may heal.

Module 4: “English Speech Enhancement”
One way of helping the participants in presenting themselves confidently on stage is through teaching them the right pronunciation of words. If one enunciates properly, the result is that it helps build inner peace and create self-confidence.

Module 5: “Personality Enhancement”
First impressions are often lasting ones and the first impressions do take everything in – the shape, the way you stand, walk, dress, and the way you use your hands. Thus, we inculcate the etiquette of bearing dresses and social graces to the minds and the hearts of the participants.


Young women are motivated to join beauty contests for their strong desire to have money on their own and for the enjoyment and the confidence they may gain. Thus, the factors that influenced them can be traced to their family upbringing and friends.

The respondents felt bad about themselves every time they lost in the beauty contests and had negative self statements but despite this, they still had respect and still felt important. Moreover, they had self-esteem and self-confidence.

The respondents used social support coping mechanisms through the help of their families and friends. At times they used rationalization and identification. Their being “Spooge” in the beauty contests had positive effects; they gained more self-confidence and had strong fighting spirits.


Based on the findings and conclusions made, the researchers advance the following recommendations:

  1. That the proposed Self-Presentations Program be implemented.
  2. That young women must develop their reading skills not just to gather more information but also to be equipped with the knowledge on how to answer questions during the pageant.
  3. That the government agencies impose a variety of livelihood projects to the parents who always depend on their daughters’ joining beauty pageants as a way of gaining money.